There’s no way around it, weight-loss sucks. It really really does. If it were easy then we would all look like models and eat whatever we pleased because we would be able to burn it off easily, but unfortunately it’s not that easy, we can’t just eat a skinny person and hope that we are what we eat. This goes for gaining muscle, or gaining athletic performance as well; the principle is pretty close to the same. It takes hard work (exercise) and most of all self-control (not giving into cravings). But thankfully for those that stay on track and shut out the negative influences, the prize at the end is pretty sweet.
After posting the dark side of weight-loss post I got more and more curious about why others get so infuriated and even despise those that are attempting to lose weight. It really sounds ridiculous but anyone that is struggling to lose weight, or gain muscle, or get better at athletics knows exactly what I am talking about. The hardest part about weight loss is often not the cravings for the cookies and nacho’s (although those do come), it is often the negative influence from the peers that surround you in your journey, which is weird because why should they care that you are trying to better yourself?
I asked around, got some opinions and was surprised to hear why some people tend to get angry when someone is losing weight. I asked people that were losing weight right now to get their opinion, and I also played devil’s advocate by asking the people that got mad or shunned me why they did when I was losing all of my weight. It was cool to see both sides of the stories but it was almost sad to hear some of the answers from both sides.
I guess we will start from the side of the people that are either currently losing weight or had lost a significant amount of weight in the past. The common answer when I asked why they thought others get frustrated with them was the obvious, “I don’t know, but it sucks”. Which was great to hear that everyone thought it sucks so they aren’t alone in that thinking, but still didn’t answer anything. It took a while but finally some people started opening up a little. At first the consensus was that others were jealous of them because they were losing weight, which might make sense for the overweight peers that are shunning their shrinking counterparts but it still didn’t make sense as to why the already skinny people got frustrated with the ones trying to drop some pounds. Finally though, after asking the ones that were mean to me, the real reasons became to come out.
So I literally just talked to some people that would get angry with me when I was losing weight and asked them, “Why were you an ass to me when I was losing weight?” It was probably a little harsh or blunt but at least it got a little fire going in them. This got them all talking pretty quickly and every single one gave me the exact same answer. The answer was that they thought I was judging them when I would decline their food offers… WHAT? SERIOUSLY??? Yes this was the answer that I got from every single person.
With that answer now out on the table let be one to say that no one here losing weight is judging someone that is offering them junk food. We could care less that you are eating a cookie and sucking down your 3rd soda. If it is working for you to keep you skinny and in shape then all the power to ya. It is almost like the overweight person that goes to the gym and is worried that everyone will stare at them, but I’ll let you in on a secret, if you are in a gym and you are worried about the in-shape ones staring at you, take a second and notice that you are the only ones doing the staring because you are worried that they are staring at you. The in-shape crowd is overjoyed that you are getting into shape and the only reason they would ever stare would be to make sure you are doing everything right in case there is any way they could help. It’s funny how that perspective gets flipped around at time.
So that is it, that’s all it is. At least for the answers that I received. Just because someone is declining your offer of a cheeseburger doesn’t meant that they are judging you for eating a cheeseburger, they simply don’t want a cheeseburger because they are already working to burn off all of the extra cheeseburgers they ate in the past. It’s funny how this gets blown out of proportion soooo often. Heck, when I was losing weight I would tell people that I was allergic to certain food even though I wasn’t just so that they wouldn’t get pissed off or sad when I declined their offer. That way works, but it sucks to have to remember all of the foods that you are “allergic” to.